Friday, April 20, 2012

the easter bunny comes early


Since we were going to be away with the cousins for Easter, the girls were a little councerned about how the Easter bunny would find us this year.  We suggested they might write a note to the floppy eared guy (girl?) explaining the situation.  They did just that, and being the flexible holiday helper that he (she?) is, it turned out just find.  I'll tell you what, the Easter Bunny aims to please. 

As requested, the delivery came three days early.  Turns out, it doesn't matter too much which day the goods arrive, the recipients seem to be thrilled.  Funny how baskets full of chocolate produce baskets full of smiles, regardless of the day.


Let the bargaining begin!


the littles



Claire loves Samuel.  He may view this as a good or bad thing, depending on the moment. 

The other day I walked into the family room to find him hanging by his feet off the living room couch, as she was trying to pull him up beside her.  After I rescued him, I talked with Claire, trying to figure out what in the heck she was doing.  Turns out, she just wanted him to sit by her so they could watch a movie together.  Lucky for us, he's such a mellow fellow, he just takes it all in stride.  In fact, he thinks she's pretty great too, and lights up whenever they're together. 

Yesterday as I sat on the floor playing with the two of them, I was imagining the two of them growing up together.  I find myself calling the older three girls "the bigs", and these two "the littles".  It was fun to think of the "littles" running outside together next summer, climbing up the steps of the school bus together, and then being teenagers together someday.  Here's to hoping they'll always want to hang out.

current family favorite


When the girls found this shirt in Aunt Haylee's box of hand-me-downs (where almost all of Mr. Sam's clothes come from!), they were so excited!  They made an immediate and unanimous decision:  Samuel is definitely the "current family favorite" around this place.  The first person everyone wants to see when they walk through the door, and the last one to get a hug at bedtime, this little guy is quite popular.  Although, he better enjoy the title.  He's pretty much crawling, and will soon be able to get just about anywhere, anything that he wants.  He doesn't know it yet, but his popularity status may soon change.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

the old tree


It's official- our "snake tree" is gone. 


The house we live in now was once my grandma Sally's.  Having been lucky enough to grow up just down the road, my siblings and I spent much of our childhood in what is now my yard.  It's funny, but I  have very few memories of playing outside in my own yard as a child.  Most of them involve Grandma's house.  I smile when I think of building boats to float in the canal (and praying Grandma didn't catch us).  We loved the monkey bars, the teeter totter- all a part of the world's best swing set my grandpa had built long before I was even born.  We slept outside on the patio and watched the stars, hunted for asparagus down the lane, and played kick-the-can on summer nights. 

Then there was "the tree".  Grandma's yard was full of all sorts of trees, but this one was the best of all.  A huge old willow tree, it's roots crawled above the ground so that we could practice walking along them.  It's branches opened up wide all the way down to the roots, making it the perfect house, fort, or whatever we were playing at the time.  One of the roots was assigned as our "sidewalk", leading up to the perfect "door", and plenty of room to put a rug and a table right inside on the "floor" of our house.  Oh, and the branches.  Perfect for climbing, we spent hours shimmying up their trunks.  I even remember my sister climbing up with one hand and holding the most newly arrived kitten with her other arm.  Best of all, the willow branches hung down to create curtains enough for us to feel like it was our own private world. 


One of the best branches held the ladder. The story is that my Grandpa found it somewhere and brought it home while my mom was still a little girl. It was the perfect toy to swing on, and there's not a child who didn't love to see how high they dared climb while it swung from side to side. Another branch held our hammock, the perfect place to spend an afternoon.
If there ever was a perfect tree, this was it.



But all good things must come to an end.  Even the best things, it seems.  You see, our perfect tree was getting very old.  Branches were rotting out, and a few years back, Courtney had to cut off a few that threatened to fall onto the playhouse.  He talked of cutting the whole thing down, but mortified, the girls and I talked him out of it.  Worst of all, our favorite tree started collecting snakes.  Snakes!  When I finally convinced him that they were harboring in the tree, he put a hose into one of the holes and they slowly started coming out until he had shot 27 of them. 

We tried thinking of anything and everything to fix the snake problem, but then I was told that once snakes found a home, they would start coming from miles around to gather for the party.  My worst fear!  I explained to the girls that if the snakes move in, I'm afraid I'd have to move out.  We finally realized that the tree had lived a good life.  Last Saturday, Courtney spend the day cutting down the old tree, whilst the girls spent the day in tears.  They sobbed and told me that they had hoped their children would play in it someday.  I admitted I had hoped the same.  One asked if I thought Grandma Sally was a little bit sad, and I replied that I thought she might be. 

Dad has promised to build something really cool to take it's place.  A cool tower with a zip line, he hopes.  Oh, and a place to hang the hammock and Great-Grandpa Colin's old ladder.  We can't forget that.

As Courtney finished pulling the stump out of the ground, one of the girls tearfully asked me if I thought we'd see the old tree in heaven.  I hadn't ever thought about it, but I guessed that maybe we would.  And wouldn't that be nice? 

After all, I can't imagine Heaven would be complete without a perfect old tree.

efficient vs. effective


Lately, Claire loves to make cookies.  Almost every day she puts in a request for cookie making.  Chocolate chip, please.  And we have to use our aprons and "crazy voices" (think Julia Child).  These activiites aren't so good for my hips, but we sure have fun and our finished product produces a great afterschool snack for the big girls. 

A few weeks ago we were elbow deep in flour when it occured to me that making cookies with a three year old isn't very efficient.  It almost always results in a bigger mess than if I were to bake by myself.  We'd use a few less eggs  to be sure (due to the one or two that seem to always be an "oops!").  And I'm positive I could have the task done in much less time if I were working alone. 




It reminded me of something a member of our stake presidency counseled in a meeting a while back.  He spoke of how the Savior didn't minister in an efficient way.  Instead, he was effective.  He loved, healed, and ministered to the one.  His focus wasn't on time constraints and to-do lists.  I'm sure he wasn't one bit worried about the quickest way to get things done.

He was focused on teaching the one.

A few days later, I was getting ready to paint Ryenne and Kate's room when Ryenne asked if she could help.  My instinct was to say no, that painting was something I did by myself.  You know, the efficient response.  Fortunately, I remembered what I had been taught.  I said yes, and we went to work.  Thank goodness I did.  While perched on the bunk bed as we painted, I learned what she and her friends liked to do during lunch break.  She shared secrets.  Because I let myself be inneficient, I learned who the cutest/nicest boys in the sixth grade are (sorry, I'm sworn to secrecy).  She asked me what "pride in your work" means.  After I explained, she was certain that's how she felt about her newly painted room.  She was proud of what she'd accomplished, and she deserved to be!  What's more, we had a great time together. 

I was reminded once again that being effective is much, much more important than being efficient. 

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

i love this job



I just needed to interrupt my to-do list to write a quick thought:

I love my job.



I love being able to take care of the people I love.
Making snacks and cleaning up messes.
Wiping away tears, giving squeezes.  Lullabies.
Making up silly words and belting them out in our "crazy voices".
Baking cookies.
Swapping out winter for spring flowers.  Even though they're not real, the new, fresh feeling is.
Cleaning and keeping house.
Cute hairdo's that send my girls off to school with a smile.
Teaching and loving. 
Dramatic growing up moments that make me grouchy when they wake me up but tend to make me smile to myself later.
Kissing my guy before he goes to work.  Looking forward to kissing him upon his return.
Hot dates.
Trying to balance it all, and sometimes- having it all work out.
Reading books.  Kissing noses.
Encouraging.
Forgiving.  Being forgiven.
Loving and being loved- warts and all.

Keeping house isn't the right word.  When I am asked to write down my "employment" (as I am so often), I proudly write "homemaker".  I like the sound of that.  Making a home is much, much different than merely "keeping house".  The difference is everything.  It really is the best career for me- I'm sure of it.  There's no place I'd rather be.  No place at all.

So glad to be here to do it.

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

a forty year old head



This past Sunday I attended a farewell meeting for my friend's son who will soon be leaving on his mission.  It was an excellent meeting and gave me much to think about.  I was so impressed with his talk, and one thing he said really stood out to me.  He mentioned that while he knew his mission was the right path for him, he understood that he would still make mistakes along the way.  He then told this story:

President Monson said he remembers being in a meeting with the 1st Presidency & the twelve . They were talking about a mistake made by a missionary. He said that the tone of the meeting was serious and they were rather critical of the missionary. Elder LeGrand Richards said, “Now brethren, if the good Lord wanted to put a 40 year old head on a 19 year old body, He would have done so, but He didn’t. He put a 19 year old head on a 19 year old body, and we should be a bit more understanding.” President Monson said that the mood of the group changed, the problem was solved, and they moved on with the meeting.



I loved that!  I came home and related this story to Courtney.  I have been thinking how this also applies to me as a parent.  So often I am "rather critical" of my children, and all too often expect them to behave with a "40 year old head".  However, they are still small, still learning.  How many times each day could Heavenly Father remind me, "Now Kelly.  If I had wanted to put a 40 year old head on her little body I would have done so.  You should be a bit more understanding. . ."?  Too often, I'm afraid. 

And for myself?  Sometimes I am "rather critical" of my own mistakes.  I think it would do me well to remember that Heavenly Father has given me a 34 year old head for a reason.  I am still learning and growing.  The life experiences I face each day are usually coming at me for the first time and while I make my share of bloopers, I'm honest-to-goodness doing the best I know how.  A little understanding and patience with myself could go a long way. 



Now, what to do when I hit the ripe old age of forty, I don't know.  Hopefully a bucket full of wisdom arrives on that magic day? 

Guess I'll just have to use the 80 year old head excuse.